On a previous blog, I shared a personal story that still makes me laugh. However, the fabric of our lives is woven of tougher thread. Our lives are a beautiful mix of tragedy and comedy. Where we focus our mental and emotional energies has a profound impact on the way we perceive life in general. We are here to learn, and it never hurts to ask ourselves “what did I learn from that experience”.
Here is an example from my life….
Date August 9, 1991:
Just celebrating my youngest son, Seth’s 8th birthday. .. We had just got home and were sitting around the table, and I was busy serving cake and ice cream. Suddenly, there was a strange sound—sort of a rumbling. As we lived out in the country, my first inclination was that a truck must be coming along our gravel lane. Looked out the front… no truck. Still carrying a plate with cake and ice cream, I casually looked out the back and same a little smoke. My first assumption was that our neighbors were burning some leaves… but the rumbling still persisted. It seemed to be coming from the garage. I zipped over to the door into the garage and to my horror; the garage (with two cars) was in flames –floor to ceiling!
Got the family out the back and directly past the flaming garage just before the gasoline in one of the cars exploded shooting a fireball a hundred feet scorching the top of a nearby elm tree. We watched in horror and disbelief as our house was engulfed in flames. Fortunately a neighbor called the fire department (volunteer)… they were quite speedy, but I can tell you it seemed like an eternity as we watched this gas-fed fire start at one end of the house and rapidly burn it way across. There we all stood, the kids frightened and shocked and me standing there barefoot on the gravel road. The house burned for hours and the next day it was still smoldering. It was a complete loss… nearly down to just the foundation. Everything was lost…. Toys, pictures, albums, keepsakes, everything! It was a tough time for all of us. Now and then we would stop and just cry… that emotion needed to be released. The youngest (Temple) was only 3 at the time. She doesn’t have much recollection of the event. At the time her favorite toy was one of those plastic Fisher-Price kitchen sets. I took her back to her room to help understand. I asked her… where is your kitchen? She replied matter of factly, “It burned up.” Where are your toys? “They burned up” was her reply. She did not seem to be upset.
Perhaps she was just too young to comprehend what this all meant… or perhaps she knew what was really important. We were all safe! We made it out of a burning/exploding house… all safe. We only had the close on our back—I didn’t even have shoes… but we were all safe. Stuff is stuff.
I always knew that… it is just stuff…family is most important. Deep down, I knew this, but to experience it was profound. In Viktor Frankl’s books “Man’s Search for Meaning”, he discusses the meaning of life. One way he writes, “… is to experience a value.” This changed my life forever. I am certain it did for the children as well… all six of them! In different ways—Most of them still live a Spartan existence… not a lot of stuff accumulation, but comfortably.
There is much much more to the story, but for now this will suffice… experiencing a value does lead to the discovery of the meaning of life.
If you have had a life altering experience… please feel free to share it in the comment section. Would love to publish them here.
--Johnnie
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